Ohai fetish Rarity
“Is Drag the imitation of gender, or does it dramatize the signifying gestures through which gender itself is established? Does being female constitute a ‘natural fact,’ or a cultural performance, or is ‘naturalness’ constituted through discursively constrained performative acts that produce the body through and within the categories of sex?”
- Judith Butler, 1990 preface to Gender Trouble
I somewhat hate how all my favorite analyzation of gender and feminism, essays and philosophies, analyzing of biology as well as social constructs always seem to be from the 80’s - mid 90’s, they feel like time-wise they are outdated writings, but their points are still so valid and so easy to still apply, so I guess they can’t be. This makes me want to check out this book.
No, really, vegan or not, if you’re having sex, especially oral sex, with anyone other than a vegan, you’re just punishing yourself.
Vegan note #36 - Vegan dating TMI
Can I be gross? Of course I can, so the following is TMI.
So, to be totally honest, I admit I could probably never date a non-vegan. It’s not so much ethics, as if the person I was dating ate meat AND understood what it is, and it ended there, then fine. It is also the fact that animal products are toxic unless treated to be otherwise by cooking them, and you have to sanitize after using them and properly organize them in the fridge to keep from risking severe illness. Funny how that doesn’t sound like a description “food” should have.
However, one of the main reasons I could never date a meat eater is because they stink. They actually smell bad. You probably wont notice this until/unless you’ve gone vegan. They especially smell bad if they don’t exercise on top of that. Simply because you’re consuming high amounts of toxins and doing nothing to expel the toxins, or trying to expel the toxins without removing the toxic foods. People who eat fast food animal products are even worse.
So, ultimately, sex with meat eaters is disgusting. Nothing like being that up close to someone who is constantly expelling the toxins of dead animals full of preservatives dissolving in their stomach. Gross. The subtle differences are very noticeable at that point. Their hair feels different, their skin feels different, and oral sex with non-vegans, especially straight-up meat eaters, especially those that eat low grade meat/fast food, is literally unbearable. Basically, I like oral sex too much to ever date a non-vegan, I’d rather cook someone a steak than go down on someone who smells that bad where it counts.
In New York City, women on welfare say that they have been strongly encouraged by welfare workers to turn to prostitution, the threat being that the individual woman may in the future be denied welfare benefits because the caseworker knows the woman could be making big bucks on the street; or in emergencies, women on welfare are told to raise the money they need by turning a trick or two. In Nevada, where prostitution is legal, women on welfare have been forced off welfare because they refused to accept the suitable employment of prostitution; once it is a legal, state-regulated job, there is no basis for refusing it. Prostitution has long been considered suitable employment for poor women whether it is legal or not. This is particularly cynical in the welfare system, given the fact that women on welfare have been subjected to “fornication checks—questioned about their sexual relations at length, questioned as to the identity of the fathers of so-called illegitimate children, questioned as to their own sexual habits, activities, and partners—and have been denied welfare if living with a man or if a man spends any time in the domicile or if having a sexual relationship with a man. Their homes could be inspected anytime: searches were common after midnight, when the welfare workers expected to find the contraband man; the courts put a stop to late searches but daytime searches are still legal. Beds, closets, and clothes were inspected to see if any remnant of a male presence could be found. Sometimes criminal charges of fornication were actually brought against the mothers of illegitimate children; the purpose was to keep them from getting welfare.
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| — | Andrea Dworkin, Right-Wing Women, pp. 163 (via fuckyeahandreadworkin) |
What if your giving a bj in the shower and he just starts shampooing and conditioning your hair
What? Why didn’t I think of that. That would save SO MUCH TIME. (I have really long hair…)
Oh, wow, it’s almost like our external anatomy when it comes to our chests is the exact same thing. Oh, right, it’s because it is.
be careful of the slutz guise!!1
(New Sex+: ONLY SLUTS GET STDs)
I love her videos and I love that she covered this topic, only, IMO, she didn’t cover this topic very broadly at all. I do hope she makes follow-up videos on the topic of STDs and STIs that includes more specific facts, like how long they last, which ones are permanent, how to get rid of each one specifically, if you can, how to prevent it, if you can. I agree that this is a topic that people have to be both less afraid of, and more serious about.
Rug burn and TMI
..I have so much rug burn right now… mostly on my back. Why? Well that’s what happens when your bf drags you across the carpet down the hall way. This stings. This actually burns so bad, it burnt last night and it still burns this morning. I guess that’s sexual aggressiveness gets me. I always play fight with the bf before sex. I’ve never been into foreplay, unless you consider foreplay to be pulling each others hair, wresting on the bed, or the floor, holding each other down, smacking each other, biting each other, dragging each other around the house, leaving all kinds of bruises and fingernail marks, etc.
I have bruises all the time, but rug burn rarely, I’m not excited to put my bra on and have it scratching against this all day at work. It’s okay, last night was fun, I earned it.
Am I the only one who thinks that ‘speed dating’ is one of the worst ideas, ever? It actually disgusts me. Anything that promotes the idea of relationships that are unwise, aren’t solid, or are potentially unhealthy is just very unsettling to me. To see culture discourage respect for real relationships and respect for people who want good relationships seems very unhealthy to me. I’m not saying people need to be in a relationship with the people they sleep with, I slept around all the time before getting into the relationship I’m still in after 4 years. However, I was openly single, openly only looking for sex and no relationship, and when I was ready, then I was, I was 100% for whatever it was at the time. I was always completely honest, no lying, no leading on, no encouraging double standards or sexism or gender roles, no dating someone for any reason other than that I liked them, I mean, what a fucking concept. Relationships aren’t supposed to be these simple things that are a cure for boredom or a way to get laid, get drugs, get free tattoos, or whatever, if the idea of synergetically sharing your life with someone who makes you happy as a person isn’t what you’re looking for, and or not what they’re looking for, you’re either wasting someone’s time, or being used, it’s not ‘lame’ to be respectable, or ‘uncool’ to respect others, and if it is, then get new friends, there are billions of people around, you can find some decent ones. I am so glad I’m 25 and not 15 right now, this culture for using people as the utility aspect even in a ‘relationship’, and or being dumb enough to make yourself that for another person won’t make anyone happy.
